The Mommy Hobby – Keeping Your Sanity in Your Mom’ing and Not Lose Yourself
The Mommy Hobby – Keeping Your Sanity in Your Mommy
At some point between diaper changes, discipline, making memories, school work, doctor appointments, bills and life, there comes a time when mom is literally all you are. It doesn’t seem to dawn on us until it’s too late. Until we have given up every hobby, craft, and interest we ever had. I don’t think pairing socks and taking cell phone pics of your kids count as hobbies! But how can you get “you” back? The mommy hobby!
Keeping your sanity in your mom’ing – How to not lose yourself – Mommy Hobby
I remember, not so long ago, when we had only one child at home, and I felt completely overwhelmed. Between all-nighters with this adorable baby girl who refused to sleep, to housework and dishes, laundry… I distinctly remember having a messy house and piles of laundry thinking “this is impossible”. Looking back now, I snicker because I had NO clue how easy I had it then. With five children now, and more challenging tasks then simply feeding and keeping a baby happy, I can’t even really imagine why that was so hard. But I do remember feeling like I was somehow morphing into something else…well mom of course, but also losing a part of myself along the way.
I found new hobbies, like scrapbooking and crocheting, but those didn’t last long and were hit or miss. Even though I was a stay-at-home mom, there wasn’t time for fun extras. My child and house were my whole world. Somewhere along this journey (and several more kids later) I paused long enough to say, I need me time! That’s when the daily evening bath time came into play. A time to just escape and breathe. I did try to find a mommy hobby with my first child, but it didn’t last very long unfortunately. After our first miscarriage, I desperately needed more time with God. And I joined a women’s Bible study at our church. That was my little saving grace at the time. Eventually I had to stop attending and start babysitting at the study, because we needed the money more.
How can you reclaim “me time” and get a little bit of you back?
Pick one thing that you want and need to do, and focus on making it happen. For me, the first thing I had to make happen was exercise. I somehow went from someone who exercised quite often, to a permanently exhausted, flabby thirty year old. Because the evenings are too challenging and I’m home with the kids all day, I had to start getting up an hour earlier to give myself that time.
After that, I went back to crocheting. This is something I desperately wanted to be good at when I was having babies, but simply didn’t take the time to learn. Now that my babies, are no longer babies, I seem to have picked it up fairly easily, thanks to YouTube and many awesome bloggers.
Choose a hobby you can see yourself doing long term. Many moms pick up photography. It seems to go hand-in-hand with mom’ing and it can be turned into a great side business or full time endeavor. Whether it’s photography, crocheting, blogging, taking a cooking class, or joining a Bible study, choose something that you want to do. Something you are good at, or want to learn more about. Hobbies don’t have to cost money and they certainly don’t have to take tons of time, but they will give you the mental awareness of self that we all so desire.
Some Mommy Hobby Ideas:
- Golf, tennis, running, yoga
- Cooking/baking classes
- A small side business
- Women’s Bible study
Photography – There are so many things you can do with photography, besides take stunning photos of your own family. You can sell your photos on sites like istockphoto.com, and shutterstock.com. These sites are great because if you are accepted into the programs, you can make an unlimited income from your photos. People will pay each time they want to download your photo for use on their sites, promotional items, etc. The potential downloads is truly unlimited. If you were hoping to sell your photos for decor and wall art for example, sites like Shopify and Etsy make it really easy to do so.
Of course there is the obvious way of using photography to make money….just start your own photography business! You can focus on families, newborns, maternity, senior pictures, engagement, wedding, birth, and even schools. People will pay big bucks for great photos of their kids, including those who have been born, are unborn and even being born!
Crocheting and knitting – If you are anything like me, I find crocheting to be so fulfilling and fun. Instead of just sitting down to watch TV, if I have a crochet hook in my hand and yarn, I feel like I’m not actually wasting my time. Crocheting is a great hobby, because everyone loves homemade gifts. I love making hats for my little ones, blankets for friends who have babies, and I love having the ability to make something for baby showers.
If you are looking at making money from crocheting/knitting, there are many ways to turn this mommy hobby, into a real business. Again, sites like Etsy are great for homemade gifts. On Facebook you can join photography prop groups and sell to newborn photographers. If you know of any hair salon owners, you can ask if they will sell your items in the salon. You could make headbands or ear warmers for adults and kids, hats, gloves, scarves, etc. Another fun thing to do, is to rent space at craft shows. Smaller, lesser expensive items like homemade wash clothes, Swiffer pads, gloves, and hats, are the way to go and seem to sell fairly quickly (at least from my experience).
Etsy – If you can create it, you can sell it on Etsy. This is the marketplace for all things homemade. Pretty much anything you can think of from jewelry, to paintings, and everything in between.
Golf, tennis, yoga, running – Making time to workout can feel challenging as a mom. But if your mommy hobby of choosing is yoga, or running for example, you need to plan your day, with these included. Yoga is great because it can easily be fit in to any schedule, even if you are a single mom or your husband works crazy hours. You can watch endless hours of Yoga classes online for free on YouTube, or purchase a DVD. Running is a great way to get into shape, and challenge yourself. There are always 5K’s, 10K’s, and marathons you can work towards. Apps like Runkeeper are an easy way to know how far you’ve gone and what your best times are, and better yet, it’s free.
Golf and tennis are great ideas if you want to take classes and really improve your skills. These are fun to do with the kids too, if you want to have a family golf outing or tennis match.
Blogging – If you have a passion for literally anything, you can be a blogger! Blogging is not only therapeutic, fun, and easy, but it is also a great way to make a side income, or full time income, depending on your time and commitment. I have started a series on blogging, about how I was able to build traffic rather quickly using Pinterest.
There are free sites like Blogger and WordPress that allow you to create a free blog, with a domain name including blogger or wordpress in it. If you want a custom domain, sites like Blue Host offer cheap domains, and even hosting if you want to take your blog to the next level with self hosting and maybe even the WordPress.org plugin (which I highly recommend). I have been blogging for a few months now, only seriously the last month, and I have come across other mom bloggers who make six figures a year, to some making an easy couple hundred a month. It’s all relative for how much time you commit to growing your “brand”.
You can also get paid to write for other blogs, websites and companies. Starting a blog is a great idea even if you just want to be a paid writer for other blogs because they always want to see your previous work, and a blog is a quick and easy way to show them what you can do.