When Mom Goes Back to Work
When Mom Goes Back to Work
Managing Your Work – Life Balance
Being home with your children is such a gift. I loved my time at home, raising my babies, watching them grow, and for a handful of years even homeschooling them. There was a time it was so fun and so easy. But mostly it was an exhausting blessing. I love my children to the moon and back.
There was a time when I felt God telling me, “This is no longer what I want for you.” Homeschooling was hard, but for a few years it was a wonderful time together, and we all loved it. Something changed in the grading of papers, science experiments and co-ops. I just felt this overwhelming sense that this was not for us anymore and my kids needed more. Throw into this mix the fact that I had been diagnosed with a disease that changed my life, and it was just obvious that I couldn’t continue.
Throw into this mix the fact that I had been diagnosed with a disease that changed my life, and it was just obvious that I couldn’t continue.
My kids went to school, public school for the first time ever. We had done homeschooling, Christian school and even cyber school, so this was a whole new world. Thankfully we have an awesome district and the kids adjusted fairly easily (some easier than others). Once they were settled and taken care of, I knew I had to do something. I needed to put my skills to use and try to get a job from home.
Finding a good job from home can be a challenge, but God has provided every step of the way. I am now working a full time schedule from home, while managing my 5 kids, schedules, housework, and helping to run our family business. It is a bit crazy! But guess what? God provides…
In the chaos of trying to find my way in this brand new adventure, I have been compiling a list of things that have been essential to my success as a working mom, while still being the same at home mom who’s available for field trips and class parties. It hasn’t been easy, but this has been a huge eye opener into what working moms go through.
It hasn’t been easy, but this has been a huge eye opener into what working moms go through.
Being a working mom is no joke! You are no longer just raising your children and caring for their needs (which is an exponentially challenging task to begin with), but now you have responsibilities, deadlines, and it becomes even harder to take time out for yourself (working out, kicking your feet up).
5 Ways to Help – When Mom Goes Back to Work
- Give yourself grace. It will take time to get in the groove of schedules and new pressures from people other than your kids, husband, family.
- Ask for help from family. They will understand, and probably be more than happy to help with kids activities, babysitting, whatever it will take to give you a break. We have been blessed with awesome parents/grandparents and they have really stepped up to help us in our adventure.
- Find ways to make your responsibilities easier. Many grocery stores offer delivery options for a small fee. If spending that $7 means you don’t have to leave Saturday to run around shopping, and can spend time at home with your kids, then do it! Hire a cleaning lady if you can afford to.
- Get the family involved in helping out more around the house. The kids, if over the age of 3, can certainly do chores that would help you. Have the kids do their own loads of laundry, set up a schedule for them of when it’s their turn to wash their clothes and stick to it. Make a chore chart, and offer incentives. I have found that buying items and assigning them points, and then assigning each chore a point value is of great incentive to kids. More so even than just offering them money. They want to see what they can earn.
- Treat yourself. It’s hard to want to spend money on yourself when you are the mom. You feel guilty about spending money on things other than necessities and the kids. But sometimes treating yourself to a manicure, or Starbucks coffee can really be a mental treat. You work hard, and should be able to get a special treat every now and then. Don’t burn yourself out trying to care for your job, your kids, everything but yourself.